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comment :: psychology of a "stalker"
Alright, let me start off by saying that I believe "stalker" is a very BROAD term; it does not necessarily entail literal "stalking". I believe that it is possible for a person who is on all other accounts mentally stable to develop an unhealthy habitual obsession with another person. Unfortunately, I am one of these people. No, I don't follow the chic around, or peak through her window, or hang pictures of her on my wall, but I can't get her off my fucking mind. It's driving me up the goddamn wall, and it feels like someone's ripping my heart apart every second of everyday. I'm not worried that I'll doing anything irrational or harmful to her. On the contrary, I'm the only one who is suffering, and I'm the only one who is aware of this problem. It's driving me fucking crazy, and I don't know what the fuck to do about it. I'd like to just forget about her, but I can't. This has been an ongoing problem for a while now, and I don't know how to kick it. There are plenty of books on how to recognize if someone is "stalking you", but what about the stalkers? Where do we turn for advice? I mean, I'm not a fucking sick pervert. I don't follow her, or beat off to pictures of her, or steal her mail. I'm not dangerous or "wierd". I just want to get the girl off my goddamned mind. How the FUCK do I do that?!
posted by: --VVIIII/\/\/\-- on 2006-01-16 23:01:19
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comment :: re: psychology of a "stalker"
you're so right; trying to get a person out of your mind is so f***ing HARD. but no! you're not a stalker. it's unanswered love. get an answer to that love,,,force it yourself by bying a pet, to go babysitting or intinsify friendships
and most of all: admit it to yourself she's a loss for you
hope you get over it;-)
posted by: NoDeca on 2006-01-16 23:14:48
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Dude, you're not a stalker. You're hopelessly in love. Any reason you can't just simpley hook up with her? Is she involved? Why don't you just ask her out on a date?
posted by: noisewreck on 2006-01-17 00:03:00
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Dude, you're not a stalker. You're hopelessly in love. Any reason you can't just simpley hook up with her? Is she involved? Why don't you just ask her out on a date?


Ya. She has a boyfriend. She's my "friend", which is fine. I'm not sure if she's even aware of the tension. I hide it pretty damn well.

"You're hopelessly in love."

Ya, with an emphasis on "hopelessly"... urgh... On my tombstone I want it to read, "Here lies Will, and he's BLOODY ANNOYED".
posted by: --VVIIII/\/\/\-- on 2006-01-17 01:08:28
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comment :: re: psychology of a "stalker"
Ya, maybe I'm not a "stalker", but this entire situation is making feel, A) like shit, and B) like a moron. Love is overrated.
posted by: --VVIIII/\/\/\-- on 2006-01-17 01:35:11
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comment :: re: psychology of a "stalker"
This sort of Situation arises from the Human need for love, and Allowing one's self to fall in love thinking it will come out good, many times its simply a matter of an uncontrolled mind.

1. Self-Contentment is very hard to attain but very important, learn to be happy with yourself, not needing other people, get hobbies, read books, study things, that kind of stuff, the less you NEED people the happier you will be with yourself and in relationships. Build Self-Confidence, and Self-Contentment. That way you won't need someone, and you will be albe to find the right person, and even when you do fall in love it will work out better.

2. Control your love, Reason before Emotion I always say. Before you allow your mind to wonder into the LALA land of love, think it through very carefully first, people say you cannot control who you fall in love with, thats not true, if you discipline your self you have full control. That way you won't fall in love with someone that won't return the love, only with people that will be worth it.

Those 2 factors are very very important, and will hopefully help a lot. They make life way easier.
posted by: gacky on 2006-01-17 09:39:17
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comment :: re: psychology of a "stalker"

This sort of Situation arises from the Human need for love, and Allowing one's self to fall in love thinking it will come out good, many times its simply a matter of an uncontrolled mind.


In my case, it was a choice. I let what started as a mild infatuation evolve into something completely different.
How did I manage this? I remember the exact moment "it" happened. My life was shit. I didn't have shit, and I was under a lot of stress, so I'd think of her to calm my nerves. It was comforting. Like any bad drug it became habit-forming, and the rest is history. It never had anything to do with sex, which is why I can't really label it as infatuation... misguided love perhaps.
At any rate, this thread actually gave me some insight as to what the fuck's going on here, so thanks folks.
And this is why "Walk The Line" is a great movie.
Cheers,
Will
posted by: --VVIIII/\/\/\-- on 2006-01-17 15:24:18
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comment :: re: psychology of a "stalker"
This entire situation is asinine. I've decided I'm heading down to Florida to get high and laid, and to forget about my life here. My mind needs an overhaul, and there just ain't shit I can do for it here. Fuck this town.
Cheers,
Stalker
posted by: --VVIIII/\/\/\-- on 2006-01-18 16:18:32
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I was going to suggest becoming a serial killer. Start out with prostitutes, and occasionally knock off an ex here or there. After you kill them, mail their eyeballs to someone, just for the hell of it. You'll feel better in no time. And by "feel better", I mean "get arrested". Sicko.
posted by: BLANK on 2006-01-18 18:56:51
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I was going to suggest becoming a serial killer. Start out with prostitutes, and occasionally knock off an ex here or there. After you kill them, mail their eyeballs to someone, just for the hell of it. You'll feel better in no time. And by "feel better", I mean "get arrested". Sicko.


Superlative suggestion, good sir. Althoooough... it's kind o' difficult to kill the bitch when she lives in Texas, and I in Wisconsin... wouldn't be very easy to set up an alibi.
As far as prostitutes go, I'm two steps a head o' ya! Yeeee-haaawwww! And homeless people too... oooohhh, man. They're just TOO easy.
posted by: --VVIIII/\/\/\-- on 2006-01-18 19:24:47
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comment :: re: psychology of a "stalker"
By the way, I used to live in TX. I don't know her from the net, or any gay shit like that. date.com is for fatties.
posted by: --VVIIII/\/\/\-- on 2006-01-18 19:29:24
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comment :: Fatties are great!
date.com is for fatties.
Oooooh, I love the fatties. They're great for spanking. Every smack lands nice and secure :) Plus, they give nice BJs since they love to eat!
posted by: noisewreck on 2006-01-18 20:16:33
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comment :: re: psychology of a "stalker"
Emotions are for women. They come from their ovaries.
posted by: --VVIIII/\/\/\-- on 2006-01-31 20:34:44
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comment :: re: psychology of a "stalker"
My advice: suck it up, bitch! And she doesn't live in TX, you paranoid, lying shit-bag, she lives in WI, not two miles from your mommy's house, you whining cunt! Go rent yourself a proper whore and stop crying over this one. Bitch got herself knocked up by a complete stranger not a year later anyway, so not only is her body shot, but she's got another whinging baby attached to her tit 24/7, which doesn't leave much room for you, does it? Dodged a bullet, you unwitting, whiny, adolescent cocksucker!

. . .

Hah! Guess I still am a blustering cunt after all! I'll drink to that!

Huzzah!
posted by: --VVIIII/\/\/\-- on 2012-01-23 19:52:37
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Hah! Nice to see someone having fun on here. I do miss the site being more active.
posted by: Royce Icon on 2012-02-06 12:14:27
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